Victims of bullies
Bullies choose the weak or those perceived as weak as their victims. Their victims tend to have the following characteristics:
- Low self-esteem
- Lack of social skills
- Not able to pick up on social cues
- Cry or easily become emotionally distraught
- Unable to defend or stand up for themselves
Some people actually seem to provoke their own victimization. They will tease bullies and make themselves a target by egging the bully on and then, not know when to stop, they are unable to defend themselves effectively when the balance of power shifts to the bully.
People who are not bullied tend to have better social skills and conflict management skills. They are more willing to assert themselves about differences without being aggressive or confronting. They suggest compromises and alternate solutions. They tend to be more aware of people's feelings and are the people who can be most helpful in resolving disputes and assisting other victims to get help.