Victim hood has many perceived benefits, but there are some serious drawbacks. Victims tend to see the world as a scary and threatening place. They believe that others treat them differently, unfairly, and even maliciously–and that they are helpless to do anything about it. This belief, that they are being mistreated and are helpless to resist, generates tremendous rage, and often, serious depression.
Victims put their victim status at risk when they show courage. For someone whose entire identity is dependent on being a victim, the loss of victim status is just as threatening as loss of life. So, unable psychologically to cope with their victimization, professional victims blame the police, the educated, the successful, and everyone else who is not a victim as "the enemy."
No one needs to be a victim! It is not easy to victimize a person who has self-confidence and knows how to defend him or herself. Look around your martial arts school. No matter their age, sex, race, religion, or status in life, martial arts students do not consider themselves victims.
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