Anger

 

Anger Management

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotions and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You cannot always get rid of, avoid, or change the things or people that enrage you, but you may learn to control your reactions to them.

There are psychological tests that measure the intensity of angry feelings, how prone to anger you are, and how well you handle it, but if you do have a problem with anger, you, and those around you, already know it. If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, you may need help finding better ways to deal with your anger.

Some people are more "hotheaded" than others are. There are also those who do not show their anger in loud, spectacular ways but are chronically irritable and grumpy. Easily angered people do not always curse and throw things; sometimes they withdraw socially, sulk, or get physically ill.

People who are easily angered generally have a low tolerance for frustration. They feel that they should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. Some children are born irritable, touchy, and easily angered and it never changes. Since anger is often regarded as negative; we are taught that it is okay to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions, but not to express anger. As a result, we do not learn how to handle it or channel it constructively. Family background also plays a role. Typically, easily angered people come from families that are disruptive, chaotic, and not skilled at emotional communications.