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If you like to bleed, then use the following bad advice that I am sure you have heard before from parents, teachers, friends, and others. This is the type of advice you will hear from people who think that, after millions of years of warfare, they have the solution to world peace.

Just be nice to people who bully you and they will be nice to you

Did this ever work on the playground? We all know how useful this information is. Try telling the little bunny to be nice to the hungry fox; the kindness will be tasty. When you are nice to bullies, they will interpret your niceness as weakness and naivety and either terminate you just for the fun of it or use you in ways you never intended to be used. Nice is the best way to get along with strangers, but once they establish their bad intentions, nice is a waste of time

Just ign

ore bullies and they will leave you alone

Tell the bunny just to ignore the fox and the fox will forget he is hungry and leave the bunny alone. Sure! That will work. Any show of weakness just encourages a bully. If you exude confidence, predators control easily determine whether you are a victim or a warrior in disguise. Therefore, they will test you. They move into your space, crowd you, make conversation to put you at ease so they may get close enough to grab you, or approach you from your blind spot. Most martial artists spar with opponents who are directly in front of them; they are not trained to be aware of people approaching from behind or from a blind spot.

So, if being nice and ignoring them do not work, what does? You scope them. Scoping is not glaring or sneering, which will antagonize. Scoping is a look that says, "I see you. I know your game and I can handle it." Then you look away. If you look down to break eye contact, you lose. Slide your eyes sideways and scope the rest of the room.

After you scope the antagonist and decide that he or she does not look that bad, then either leave or hang around and keep him or her in your peripheral vision. Watch without looking. Martial artists call it "looking at nothing and to see everything." By using a soft focus, you can increase your peripheral (sideways) vision up to about 200 degrees. In the movie Little Big Man, while Dustin Hoffman's sister is teaching him to be a gunfighter she tells him to make snake eyes. This is a way to soft focus and gain peripheral acuity because peripheral vision processes movement quickly. 

If the antagonist leaves just as you are getting up to leave, either wait until you are sure he or she is gone or leave by another exit or be prepared when leaving. Acting unaware may bring an attack and paying too much attention may draw too much attention you.

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